Sometime relatively soon after Erica and I got married (at age 23), we made a list of goals, of things we’d like to achieve by the time we were 30, and a second list by the time we are 40.

I thought it would be fun to take a look at the list today, my 30th birthday, to see how those goals line up with my worldview now, and what we achieved.

By 30:

  • Own a home
  • Have kids
  • Pay off school loans
  • Travel to London
  • Combined weight of 315 lbs
  • Travel the US
  • Own a boat and lot on the lake

We’ve actually done pretty well on these. We haven’t paid off school loans completely, but we are doing well financially, and are on pace to pay them off in the next couple of years. I’m going to London in January and we’re both going in June. Our combined weight is only 10 pounds off the goal. We’ve not traveled the US as fully as we want, but we’ve had some amazing trips. And most importantly, we welcomed our son, Evan, to the world in June.

The funny one is the boat and lake goal. That’s by far the least important to me, and we definitely haven’t accomplished it. We’d much rather remodel our very old (1925) home instead.

I wouldn’t want to give away our list of stuff we want to accomplish by 40 too early (spoiler, it’s not that interesting), but one item is done, so that’s awesome! I listed that I wanted to start my own business by then, and I’ve been working for myself for a year now.

But a greater thing I’ve learned is how non-equally weighted these goals are to me now. The joy of being a parent is a thousand times greater than anything else on the list. Every other goal is just a comfort or pleasantry, but our young family experience is an amazing blessing.

Another greater goal that’s missing is our desire to create and foster other positive relationships: within our neighborhood, church, and community. And in that regard, we are incredibly happy. We have amazingly supportive friends and family.

Also, we are both very satisfied with our work and career paths. It’s sad how rare that is, and we are truly fortunate to love what we do.

I am so fortunate to be in the position that I am in at age 30. While it’s a bit of a bummer to realize I’m as close to 40 as I am 20 (I still feel like I’m just a kid), I wouldn’t trade the years I’ve experienced. 2015 has been the best year of my life and I’m super excited for the future.

One thought on “Thirty

  1. Really happy for you Brian. Congratulations on everything you\’ve accomplished. And you\’re right about the fact that with time, it isn\’t so much that the items on the checklist change. But their importance certainly does. Here\’s hoping the next ten are even better.

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